Our latest adoption journey (for our second little angel) began just about two years ago. Does that strike you as not that long ago? I would say that in a way you are right, but for us it feels like forever. When you are trying to grow your family and become a daddy and mommy again, it’s a very long time. We’ve always known that we wanted more than one child, we just didn’t know what a journey it would be.
What’s the Deal?
In June of 2009 when our adopted daughter was already two years old (and we weren’t getting any younger), we decided to start the adoption process again. We knew that we wanted to have our facilitator, Lifetime Adoption Center (www.LifetimeAdoption.com) help us again. We started down the familiar road of completing the necessary home study paperwork and social worker meetings with our local state adoption agency.
There were quite a few obstacles that delayed us. It seemed like at every turn we were running into things that slowed the process down. One of the biggest delays was when our home study social worker ended up in the hospital. This meant we had to start the process over with a new social worker. I remember Tisha telling me she had a bad feeling that something was really wrong, and God was slowing us down because of it. Neither one of us could imagine what it was, so we continued on. In December of 2009 we had finally finished our home study and profile which included a new birthmother letter, pictures, and a video. We were back “in the pool” waiting for the call from Lifetime about a possible birthmother match…until…
Our Big Trouble
During the last few weeks of completing our paperwork and getting our new profiles sent to Lifetime, we ran into some trouble. We found out that my wife Tisha needed surgery. In January 2010 she had a surgical biopsy which led to worse news – she had stage 0 breast cancer. We were blown away. It suddenly became clear why we were slowed down. Our fears were confirmed as we wondered about her health as well as what this will do for our adoption.
In February we decided to put the adoption process on hold while Tisha recovered from another surgery. We thought that would be the end of it. We were wrong. The surgery went well, but the results were worse. She had stage 2 breast cancer. Talk about delays. We thought we had some problems getting through the adoption process before. This was much, much different. Now what? Would we ever be able to adopt again? Everything was up in the air now…