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IAG 036: Adoptive Dad panel Part 2 – a guy’s view on infant adoption

Posted on 29. Jun, 2015 by .

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This is is part 2 of the amazing adoptive dad panel where Jake Stewart, Dan Welz and I have a rare talk about infant adoption from a guy’s point of view.

If you haven’t listened to part 1 yet, I highly recommend you check it out first.

Jake told his adoption story in Episode 23. He and his wife have adopted two children – both as newborns. They have open adoptions with their children’s birthparents. Now they are excited as they are expecting their first biological child!

Dan and his wife adopted their son in 2011 and enjoy and open adoption with his birthparents. Now they are on the journey to adopt again!

I’m so excited to share part 2 of this adoptive dad panel discussion with you. We had a fun sharing our stories, tips, and resources.

There’s not a lot of support for the men who are on the adoption journey.

Our hope and prayer is that this episode will provide inspiration to those hopeful adoptive dads (and moms too) who are pursuing their dream of building their family through infant adoption.

What you will learn about in this episode:

  • Stories about open adoption from each guy’s personal experience (and you’ll hear why open adoption is so important to us).
  • How men can support their wives through the adoption process.
  • How women can support their husbands through the adoption process.
  • Tips and advice from each of the dads for any hopeful adoptive family.
    AND MUCH MORE!

Links we talk about in this episode:

InfantAdoptionGuide.com/35 – listen to part 1 of our adoptive dad discussion.
Answers in Abundance: A Miraculous Adoption Journey as Told from a Father’s Heart – great book that Dan suggested that any guy should read.
InfantAdoptionGuide.com/23 – hear Jake’s full adoption story.
InfantAdoptionGuide.com/Dads – a Facebook support group for adoptive dads and hopeful adoptive dads.
InfantAdoptionGuide.com/iTunes – If you like the show, I would love it if you would leave a review on iTunes. Thanks!

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IAG 035: Adoptive dad panel – infant adoption from a guy’s point of view – Part 1

Posted on 20. Jun, 2015 by .

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This episode is one that I’ve wanted to do for a long time. It is very special to me because we have not one but two dads as guests on the show – Jake Stewart and Dan Welz.

These guys are here to have a very rare and unique roundtable discussion – a guy’s view on infant adoption.IAG 035 Adoptive Dad panel

You may remember Jake was a guest on the show back on Episode 23. He and his wife have adopted two children – both as newborns. They have open adoptions with their children’s birthparents. Some amazing and exciting news is that they are expecting their first biological child!

Dan and his wife adopted back in 2011 and enjoy and open adoption with their child’s birthparents. They have started the adoption process again – so they are waiting to bring home their second child!

I’m so excited to share this adoptive dad panel discussion with you. We had a blast talking with each other. In fact, we talked about so much that I’ve split the conversation into two episodes!

Today, you’ll hear part 1 and the next episode will be part 2, where we finish our amazing conversation about how guy’s view infant adoption.

What you will learn about in this episode:

  • What each of our adoptive dads felt like when they and their wives were first matched.
  • How much they were involved in the adoption process.
  • What it’s like to have an open adoption (from a guy’s point of view).
  • Tips and advice from the dads for any guy who is going through the adoption process.
    AND MUCH MORE!

Links we talk about in this episode:

Answers in Abundance: A Miraculous Adoption Journey as Told from a Father’s Heart – great book that Dan suggested that any guy should read.
InfantAdoptionGuide.com/23 – hear Jake’s full adoption story.
InfantAdoptionGuide.com/Dads – a Facebook support group for adoptive dads and hopeful adoptive dads.
InfantAdoptionGuide.com/iTunes – If you like the show, I would love it if you would leave a review on iTunes. Thanks!
InfantAdoptionGuide.com/36 – PART 2 of our adoptive dad panel! Listen to the rest of our amazing conversation.

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The Dreams that You Dare to Dream Really Do Come True…. Don’t They? Part 2

Posted on 04. Jun, 2015 by .

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The following is a guest post by hopeful adoptive mom, Josie Sowers. She and her husband Scott are currently waiting to adopt. She shares her heart and her faith as they get closer to the day when their dream of becoming parents comes true. You can read part 1. The following is part 2 by Josie.
Here you go…

We had our profile shown recently to a birth family.

They ended up going with another couple and I was heartbroken, of course, while at the same time thrilled that other couple received the answer to their prayers. I cringed inside as people said “God has the perfect child out there for you and will bring them to you in His perfect timing. This wasn’t the right one for you.”

As irritating as that was to hear at the time, they were so right. God will do what brings Him the most glory and what He knows will be for our greatest good in HIS timing, not mine.

His sovereign plan was for this sweet baby to go to their mama and daddy so they could accomplish things, have the life they wouldn’t have had with us. Who knows what will happen in their life now, how their life would have been different had they gone to any other family?

The same concept will apply when we get matched. Who knows what God will ultimately do with our child’s life when they join us or how He will use us in that process?

I do know we are to raise them in a godly way, teach them that they are sinners in need of a Savior, that God loves them, died for them, and has tasks for them to accomplish that He had prepared before time began. (Ephesians 2:1-10).

Beyond that, I’m not sure what God wants to do. I’m excited to see what happens, though.

Friend, as you are waiting, as another holiday passes without a child to share it with, as you’re crying out to God through your tears, angry and confused, remember this: you’re not alone.

I’m right there with you.

I’ve probably felt and thought everything you have. Sadness, hopelessness, anger, excitement, joy, hope.

Then it seems to cycle back around again. Blech. No fun at all.

Talk about an emotional roller coaster… did I mention I HATE roller coasters? I will not step foot in one. EVER.

I went on one of those kiddie spinner rides once and that was enough for me. So this just proves my theory that roller coasters of any sort are pure evil.

One of Satan’s favorite tricks is to make you feel isolated and hopeless. Don’t let him. Fight. Just know that if God truly has placed the desire in your heart to raise children, if it’s truly in His plans for your life, it’ll happen.

It may not be in the time frame you want, but it’ll happen. Take deep breaths. Pray. Breath again. Pray again.

Put one foot in front of the other and, when you feel like you can’t take one more breath or step, cling to Christ. That’s exactly where He wants us: in complete dependence on Him. God loves you, friend, and I do, too.

Hang in there, trust in His timing and enjoy growing closer to Him as He stretches you, grows you and draws you closer to Himself.
God Bless,
Josie

Josie Sowers is an adoption advocate, mommy in waiting, blogger and Food Network, History Channel and HGTV junkie. She has been married to the love of her life, Scott, since January 2011 and their fur baby, Ziva, joined their family in May 2014. She blogs at BlessedBeyondMeasure11.wordpress.com

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IAG 034: Coley Strickland of Birthmom Buds

Posted on 25. May, 2015 by .

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We have a very special guest on the show – Nicole “Coley” Strickland is here to share about her experience as a birthmom, and how she went on to co-found BirthmomBuds.com.Birthmom

Coley is the President and Executive Director of BirthMom Buds which provides support to birthmothers through its many programs including the buddy system, pregnant and placing program, and annual birthmother retreats.

In addition to the numerous articles she has written, she has also been featured on a number of radio programs, magazine and newspaper articles, as well as in books such as:

How to Create a Successful Adoption Portfolio by Madeleine Melcher
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A Personal Touch on Adoption by Peter Berlin

Coley has been blessed to parent her special needs son Noah, who along with the son she placed, is the love of her life.

She has further given a voice to the bittersweet turmoil birthmothers go through, by becoming an active member of the adoption community, writing, speaking and sharing her story with others.

This is why I’m so excited about talking with Coley today!

What you will learn about in this episode:

  • Why Coley co-founded Birthmom Buds.
  • How Birthmom Buds provides amazing support for birthmoms, women considering adoption, and hopeful adoptive parents.
  • What makes them unique among adoption support groups.
  • Listen to what Coley hopes that all adoptive parents learn from Birthmom Buds.
  • Hear some success stories from women who have received support from Birthmom Buds.
  • Why you should set up an open adoption contact agreement.
  • AND MUCH MORE!

Links we talk about in this episode:

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The Dreams that You Dare to Dream Really Do Come True…. Don’t They? Part 1

Posted on 22. May, 2015 by .

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The following is a guest post by hopeful adoptive mom, Josie Sowers. She and her husband Scott are currently waiting to adopt. She shares her heart and her faith as they get closer to the day when their dream of becoming parents comes true.
This is part 1 of 2 posts by Josie. Here you go…

I’m horrible at waiting. Like really, really horrible at it. Ask my husband.IAG post dreams you dare to dream really do come true don't they

If we’re watching a TV show that has a cliffhanger to it and there just so happens to be an article online containing spoilers, I tend to find myself reading the article, finding out which major character died or who won a particular competition.

If we have a goal we want to achieve as a couple, I want it accomplished YESTERDAY so we can move on to the next goal.

So you can imagine how much fun the adoption process has been, where you are at the mercy of the adoption agency and government entities. You can’t control how long it takes them to process paperwork.

You have filling out applications down to a science, can get it done and submitted in no time, but once it’s out of your hands, you can’t say when it’ll get the stamp of a approval.

Did you know that God’s word has examples of people who also struggled with patience and releasing control? Did you know that God used their weaknesses to grow them and draw them closer to Him?

One such example is when the Israelites were in exile in Babylon. That’s right. I’m going Old Testament on you. Hang on, cause it’s gonna be a fun ride back in time.

Think of me as Doc Brown, which makes you Marty McFly… except we don’t have a tricked out DeLorean to ride around in. Sad, right?

Now obviously the Israelites weren’t thrilled with being exiled in a strange land with a strange language and strange gods and wanted to go back to their homeland immediately. They didn’t understand God’s sovereign plan, though.

Hindsight is 20/20, right? Jeremiah 29:10 says “For thus says the Lord: ‘When seventy years are completed for Babylon, I will visit you, and I will fulfill to you my promise and bring you back to this place.’” Can you imagine how ticked they were? They would have to wait 70 years before they saw their home again?!

I don’t know about you, but if I had to wait 70 years for ANYTHING, I’d go nuts. The verse that follows, Jeremiah 29:11, is one of the most popular memory verses in the Bible and provides the reason why He made them wait that long. It says, “’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.’”

One of my Pastors, Rob Green, covered this verse not too long ago and made a great point: that verse is used out of context a lot. People jump to the verses that are warm and fuzzy and don’t read into the backstory. Without verse 10, you miss a lot of the purpose of verse 11. Yes, God does have a plan for our lives, our future children’s lives, but sometimes that comes after years of struggle and tears and growing pains.

Not always, but sometimes.

Can you identify with the Israelites at all? I know I can.

Our profile has been active less than a year and it feels like it’s been 70 years already. It’s easy for me to question God, asking, “Why is this taking so long, Lord? Why have we gone through so many ups and downs?” and, although He’s never answered me audibly, His word does provide clear answers: God is sovereign. I am not.

He “knows the plans He has for me.” Whether that means waiting 1 more year or 5 more, I don’t know.

I do know that, until He moves us forward, I need to rest in His promise that He has only my best interest in mind.

God bless,
Josie

Check part 2 of her post here.

Josie Sowers is an adoption advocate, mommy in waiting, blogger and Food Network, History Channel and HGTV junkie. She has been married to the love of her life, Scott, since January 2011 and their fur baby, Ziva, joined their family in May 2014. She blogs at BlessedBeyondMeasure11.wordpress.com

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Book Give-Away! Encouragement for the Adoption and Parenting Journey

Posted on 04. May, 2015 by .

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Have you heard?

There is a brand new adoption book – and not just any adoption book. This one is unlike any other.
adoption devotional book cover
Encouragement for the Adoption and Parenting Journey – 52 Devotions and a Journal
by Rachel Garlinghouse & Madeleine Melcher.

Rachel Garlinghouse and Madeleine Melcher (adoptee) are both book authors, mothers through adoption, freelance writers, and women of faith.

The authors’ education and experiences have been shared on MSNBC, NPR, Portrait of Adoption, Huffington Post Live, Babble, Scary Mommy, and Adoption Talk Linkup and many, many more.

Together, Garlinghouse and Melcher encourage their readers to accept God’s abundant, relentless, grace-filled love as they forge down the adoption and parenting path.

Being a regular reader of the Infant Adoption Guide blog and listener of the IAG podcast (like I know you are), you already noticed that I’ve recently interviewed Rachel and Madeleine on Episode 33.

If by some strange reason you haven’t heard that show yet, I HIGHLY recommend you have a listen. They did an amazing job of sharing their story of why they wrote the book, what the book is about, why it will help you on your journey, and much, much more.

I was so thrilled when Rachel & Madeleine asked me to review the book before it was released. They even included my review in the book!
Check it out…

My book review for Encouragement for the Adoption and Parenting Journey

Each chapter includes: a topic of interest (Hope is my favorite one), great bible verses, a heartfelt and applicable devotion, reflection questions, and journaling space. This book will reach out and lift you up on your adoption journey.

I love this book so much – I want YOU to WIN a copy!

That’s right – Rachel and Madeleine will send you a FREE copy of their brand new book.

All you have to do is enter.

HOW DO YOU ENTER?

There are 4 ways…
1. VISIT the book’s Facebook page.
2. PIN the book cover on Pinterest.
3. TWEET about the book on Twitter.
4. CHECK OUT the book’s page on Amazon.com.

SO – this means you can get up to FOUR (4) entries if you complete each way-to-enter listed above.

GOOD DEAL? I think so. FREE books are awesome.

OK – here are the details:
Give-a-way STARTS on Monday May 4 at 11am Central.
Give-a-way ENDS on Friday May 8 at NOON Central.
Winner will be chosen randomly.
Questions? Email me at: [email protected]

Enter below and I hope you WIN! 

 Adoption Devotional Book giveaway

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IAG 031: Transracial adoption with Rachel Garlinghouse

Posted on 04. Mar, 2015 by .

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Have thought about or considered adopting a baby from a different race? Are you prepared?

Transracial adoption can be an amazing journey that can still sometimes having you feel alone and unsure of what to do. This episode’s special guest is Rachel Garlinghouse, who is an adoptive mom of three. She and her husband have adopted all three of their children from the U.S. and all are of a different race than their own.

Rachel is a gifted author and loves to share her passion for transracial adoption. Through her experience, she says “I believe adoption is complicated, intricate, evolving, and bittersweet.”

Rachel doesn’t believe transracial adoption is for everyone, nor should anyone enter into it lightly. Her prayer is to help open hearts and minds so families will better understand and consider transracial adoption.

If you are new to adoption or you are already an adoptive parent, this interview with Rachel will increase your understanding and appreciation for transracial adoption.

Rachel is the author of several books. Her most popular one so far is called Come Rain or Come Shine: A White Parent’s Guide to Adopting and Parenting Black Children

This is an excellent book that will help you understand transracial adoption. She covers a lot of ground – from just getting started and preparing to adopt transracially – through parenting and raising children of a different race – to navigating open adoption, handling racism, and finding the support you and your children need.

What you will learn about in this episode:

  • Rachel tells her family’s incredible adoption story.
  • She shares her heart about what it is like to raise children of a different race.
  • She will explain why she wrote the book Come Rain or Come Shine.
  • Find out the most important things you need to know about transracial adoption.
  • Hear about Rachel’s newest project – a devotional/journal book called “Encouragement for the Adoption & Parenting Journey” which will be released soon! 
  • AND MUCH MORE!

Links we talk about in this episode:

WhiteSugarBrownSugar.com – Rachel’s amazing blog where she writes about her experiences (and you can find her books).
Follow Rachel on her Facebook page: WhiteSugarBrownSugar
Come Rain or Come Shine: A White Parent’s Guide to Adopting and Parenting Black Children – Rachel’s popular book.
Encouragement for the Adoption & Parenting Journey Rachel co-wrote this with Madeleine Melcher (adoptive mom and adoptee).

InfantAdoptionGuide.com/welcome – check out my 4 FREE ebooks to help you adopt faster, safer, and cheaper. 
AdoptionProfileVideo.com – my new site that will give you a step-by-step guide to create your adoption profile video.

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Celebrate National Adoption Month during November!

Posted on 07. Nov, 2014 by .

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That’s right! November is National Adoption Month. What does that mean? It is a time to celebrate and create awareness for adoption in the U.S.Celebrate

National Adoption Month started in 1995. Since then, every November a Presidential Proclamation launches activities and celebrations to help build awareness of adoption throughout the nation. Thousands of community organizations arrange and host programs, events, and activities to share positive adoption stories.

So what are we doing here on InfantAdoptionGuide.com to celebrate?

During the month of November 2014 only, I’ve teamed up with several adoption authors and advocates to help inspire and encourage you on your adoption journey. The following adoption books have had their price dropped to a mere 99 CENTS during November!

Here they are along with easy links for you to go check them out.

Remember – these are only available at 99 cents during November – National Adoption Month!

Get them now while they are on SALE! Enjoy!

7 Steps To Domestic Infant Adoption99  by Tim Elder. Yep, this is my book filled with parts of my adoption story along with resources, inspiration, and hope for your domestic adoption journey.

 

 

 

The Eye of Adoption by Jody Dyer. In my opinion, EVERY hopeful adoptive parent should read this. It is Jody’s story about how she and her husband adopted a newborn in an open adoption. Click here to listen to the interview I did with Jody about her story and book.

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Adopting a 3rd time – our latest adoption journey

Posted on 25. Oct, 2014 by .

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If you’ve followed my story about how I became a dad and how my wife and I adopted our daughter in 2007 and our son in 2012, you know the road to building our family has been an amazing and wild ride.journey to our 3rd adoption

Our experiences have inspired me to help other hopeful adoptive families through InfantAdoptionGuide.com and the Infant Adoption Guide Podcast. I’ve recorded a podcast episode about our journey so if you’d like to listen to how we’ve made it through our first two adoptions, check out episode 12.

The big news for our family is that we are adopting again! 

My hope and prayer is that our adoption stories will inspire and help you in your adoption journey.

Excited (and anxious) for adoption #3

Just like any family who are “expecting” to add to their family, my wife and I are super excited to adopt again. We are also a bit nervous and anxious.

It may surprise you that we are nervous after adopting twice, but that’s the thing with domestic infant adoption – every story is unique and there are no guarantees. You just don’t know how the whole thing is going to play out.

What do I mean by this? There could be a failed match (or more than one) with an expectant mother, where we may be invested emotionally and/or financially only to start over with waiting for the right match. 

After two successful adoptions, we know how we would like it to go. We know what it takes to build our family, but we also know it can be a roller coaster ride.

Where we are right now in our journey

We decided to work again with our friends at Lifetime Adoption Center, just as we have on our first two adoptions. They are great and we are comfortable with them. We know what we get and they do what they say they will do so we trust them. We feel that Lifetime will minimize our risk of a failed match or failed placement.

Here’s our TO-DO list: […]

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IAG 023: An infant adoption story with Jake Stewart

Posted on 30. Jul, 2014 by .

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Can you imagine your first adoption taking 10 days? In this episode you’ll hear how that happened for Jake Stewart. He and his wife have adopted twice – both newborns.

Jake Stewart familyAdoption stories are inspiring and can provide hope on our own journey. Jake will tell the stories about how his children became part of their family. The photo above is with Jake and his family – including both of this kids’ birthmoms.  

What you will learn about in this episode:

  • How Jake and his wife adopted their two kids – one within 10 days and one within a few months.
  • What open adoption means to Jake and his family.
  • Tips from a guy’s perspective about how to get on board with the adoption process.
  • How Jake and his family had both of their children’s birthmoms stay at their house – on the same weekend.
  • AND MUCH MORE!

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