Are you considering adoption? Or are you already beginning the adoption process? I hope our first adoption story will help you wherever you are in your own adoption journey.
My wife and I began thinking about adoption in 2005. Having dealt with infertility for many years we started looking at information on the internet. We were confused and had a lot of unanswered questions. Where do you start? How does the adoption process work? Is domestic or international adoption better for us? How much will it cost? How long would we wait to bring a baby home?
We had spent countless days and weeks trying to find good information to help us build our family. During this process, I couldn’t believe how difficult it was to find the answers we were looking for. We decided to start calling agencies and adoption professionals to try to get some answers.
A breakthrough for us was deciding that we really wanted a newborn baby, which meant domestic adoption was for us. We could get help from a local adoption agency, an adoption attorney, or try to independently adopt (find a birthmother on our own) by using an adoption facilitator. We chose to use a facilitator – a company that helps you conduct a nationwide search for a birthmother.
In early 2006 we completed our homestudy with the state adoption agency and contracted with our facilitator. We completed our profile (multiple page dear birthmother letter with pictures) and sent 50 copies to our facilitator.
Ironically it took 9 months until our daughter was placed with us. The wait was very discouraging at times and we second guessed everything, from the way we made our profile to if we were using the right people to help us. Our facilitator was so encouraging during those times. They assured us that our profile was fine – it would just take the right birthmother for us.
In March 2007 we got the call from our adoption coordinator. She said a birthmother wanted to match with us – and the even bigger news was that she was due in a week! The next day we spoke with our birthmom for the first time, and by that evening we were matched! It was a whirlwind week as we made arrangements to go to Nevada for the birth. All of that waiting and suddenly everything was happening really fast!
At the Hospital
We arrived at the hospital 4 hours after our daughter was born because she came a couple of days early. This was the first time we met our birthmother. It was a little awkward, but we hugged her like she was family.
She was holding the little angel and she wanted us to hold her. We couldn’t have asked for a more wonderful, sweet, and loving birthmother. When it came to naming our daughter, we hadn’t settled on one. We gave her some names we were considering and she really liked Arianna, so we knew that had to be it.
The day we left the hospital was the most difficult day. We had such mixed emotions – so happy to see our dreams coming true with finally having a baby, yet so sad for our birthmother. We were all in tears as we hugged goodbye. We reassured her that we would take great care of Arianna. We agreed to send her pictures and letters every month for the first year, and then more after that if she wished.
The New Family
We had to stay for 12 days in Nevada to let the ICPC (Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children) paperwork to be completed. As we arrived in the airport back home, our family was there to greet us – so much fun! We were finally home, ready to start our new life as a family. Our dream had come true.
Now that you’ve read about our first adoption story, click here to read about our second adoption story.
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