Archive for 'Adoption Stories'
Posted on 22. May, 2015 by Tim.
The following is a guest post by hopeful adoptive mom, Josie Sowers. She and her husband Scott are currently waiting to adopt. She shares her heart and her faith as they get closer to the day when their dream of becoming parents comes true.
This is part 1 of 2 posts by Josie. Here you go…
I’m horrible at waiting. Like really, really horrible at it. Ask my husband.
If we’re watching a TV show that has a cliffhanger to it and there just so happens to be an article online containing spoilers, I tend to find myself reading the article, finding out which major character died or who won a particular competition.
If we have a goal we want to achieve as a couple, I want it accomplished YESTERDAY so we can move on to the next goal.
So you can imagine how much fun the adoption process has been, where you are at the mercy of the adoption agency and government entities. You can’t control how long it takes them to process paperwork.
You have filling out applications down to a science, can get it done and submitted in no time, but once it’s out of your hands, you can’t say when it’ll get the stamp of a approval.
Did you know that God’s word has examples of people who also struggled with patience and releasing control? Did you know that God used their weaknesses to grow them and draw them closer to Him?
One such example is when the Israelites were in exile in Babylon. That’s right. I’m going Old Testament on you. Hang on, cause it’s gonna be a fun ride back in time.
Think of me as Doc Brown, which makes you Marty McFly… except we don’t have a tricked out DeLorean to ride around in. Sad, right?
Now obviously the Israelites weren’t thrilled with being exiled in a strange land with a strange language and strange gods and wanted to go back to their homeland immediately. They didn’t understand God’s sovereign plan, though.
Hindsight is 20/20, right? Jeremiah 29:10 says “For thus says the Lord: ‘When seventy years are completed for Babylon, I will visit you, and I will fulfill to you my promise and bring you back to this place.’” Can you imagine how ticked they were? They would have to wait 70 years before they saw their home again?!
I don’t know about you, but if I had to wait 70 years for ANYTHING, I’d go nuts. The verse that follows, Jeremiah 29:11, is one of the most popular memory verses in the Bible and provides the reason why He made them wait that long. It says, “’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.’”
One of my Pastors, Rob Green, covered this verse not too long ago and made a great point: that verse is used out of context a lot. People jump to the verses that are warm and fuzzy and don’t read into the backstory. Without verse 10, you miss a lot of the purpose of verse 11. Yes, God does have a plan for our lives, our future children’s lives, but sometimes that comes after years of struggle and tears and growing pains.
Not always, but sometimes.
Can you identify with the Israelites at all? I know I can.
Our profile has been active less than a year and it feels like it’s been 70 years already. It’s easy for me to question God, asking, “Why is this taking so long, Lord? Why have we gone through so many ups and downs?” and, although He’s never answered me audibly, His word does provide clear answers: God is sovereign. I am not.
He “knows the plans He has for me.” Whether that means waiting 1 more year or 5 more, I don’t know.
I do know that, until He moves us forward, I need to rest in His promise that He has only my best interest in mind.
Josie Sowers is an adoption advocate, mommy in waiting, blogger and Food Network, History Channel and HGTV junkie. She has been married to the love of her life, Scott, since January 2011 and their fur baby, Ziva, joined their family in May 2014. She blogs at BlessedBeyondMeasure11.wordpress.com
Posted on 04. May, 2015 by Tim.
Have you heard?
There is a brand new adoption book – and not just any adoption book. This one is unlike any other.
Encouragement for the Adoption and Parenting Journey – 52 Devotions and a Journal
by Rachel Garlinghouse & Madeleine Melcher.
Rachel Garlinghouse and Madeleine Melcher (adoptee) are both book authors, mothers through adoption, freelance writers, and women of faith.
The authors’ education and experiences have been shared on MSNBC, NPR, Portrait of Adoption, Huffington Post Live, Babble, Scary Mommy, and Adoption Talk Linkup and many, many more.
Together, Garlinghouse and Melcher encourage their readers to accept God’s abundant, relentless, grace-filled love as they forge down the adoption and parenting path.
Being a regular reader of the Infant Adoption Guide blog and listener of the IAG podcast (like I know you are), you already noticed that I’ve recently interviewed Rachel and Madeleine on Episode 33.
If by some strange reason you haven’t heard that show yet, I HIGHLY recommend you have a listen. They did an amazing job of sharing their story of why they wrote the book, what the book is about, why it will help you on your journey, and much, much more.
I was so thrilled when Rachel & Madeleine asked me to review the book before it was released. They even included my review in the book!
Check it out…
Each chapter includes: a topic of interest (Hope is my favorite one), great bible verses, a heartfelt and applicable devotion, reflection questions, and journaling space. This book will reach out and lift you up on your adoption journey.
I love this book so much – I want YOU to WIN a copy!
That’s right – Rachel and Madeleine will send you a FREE copy of their brand new book.
All you have to do is enter.
HOW DO YOU ENTER?
There are 4 ways…
1. VISIT the book’s Facebook page.
2. PIN the book cover on Pinterest.
3. TWEET about the book on Twitter.
4. CHECK OUT the book’s page on Amazon.com.
SO – this means you can get up to FOUR (4) entries if you complete each way-to-enter listed above.
GOOD DEAL? I think so. FREE books are awesome.
OK – here are the details:
Give-a-way STARTS on Monday May 4 at 11am Central.
Give-a-way ENDS on Friday May 8 at NOON Central.
Winner will be chosen randomly.
Questions? Email me at: [email protected]
Enter below and I hope you WIN!
Posted on 04. Mar, 2015 by Tim.
Have thought about or considered adopting a baby from a different race? Are you prepared?
Transracial adoption can be an amazing journey that can still sometimes having you feel alone and unsure of what to do. This episode’s special guest is Rachel Garlinghouse, who is an adoptive mom of three. She and her husband have adopted all three of their children from the U.S. and all are of a different race than their own.
Rachel is a gifted author and loves to share her passion for transracial adoption. Through her experience, she says “I believe adoption is complicated, intricate, evolving, and bittersweet.”
Rachel doesn’t believe transracial adoption is for everyone, nor should anyone enter into it lightly. Her prayer is to help open hearts and minds so families will better understand and consider transracial adoption.
If you are new to adoption or you are already an adoptive parent, this interview with Rachel will increase your understanding and appreciation for transracial adoption.
Rachel is the author of several books. Her most popular one so far is called Come Rain or Come Shine: A White Parent’s Guide to Adopting and Parenting Black Children
This is an excellent book that will help you understand transracial adoption. She covers a lot of ground – from just getting started and preparing to adopt transracially – through parenting and raising children of a different race – to navigating open adoption, handling racism, and finding the support you and your children need.
What you will learn about in this episode:
- Rachel tells her family’s incredible adoption story.
- She shares her heart about what it is like to raise children of a different race.
- She will explain why she wrote the book Come Rain or Come Shine.
- Find out the most important things you need to know about transracial adoption.
- Hear about Rachel’s newest project – a devotional/journal book called “Encouragement for the Adoption & Parenting Journey” which will be released soon!
- AND MUCH MORE!
Links we talk about in this episode:
WhiteSugarBrownSugar.com – Rachel’s amazing blog where she writes about her experiences (and you can find her books).
Follow Rachel on her Facebook page: WhiteSugarBrownSugar
Come Rain or Come Shine: A White Parent’s Guide to Adopting and Parenting Black Children – Rachel’s popular book.
Encouragement for the Adoption & Parenting Journey – Rachel co-wrote this with Madeleine Melcher (adoptive mom and adoptee).
InfantAdoptionGuide.com/welcome – check out my 4 FREE ebooks to help you adopt faster, safer, and cheaper.
AdoptionProfileVideo.com – my new site that will give you a step-by-step guide to create your adoption profile video.
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Posted on 30. Jul, 2014 by Tim.
Can you imagine your first adoption taking 10 days? In this episode you’ll hear how that happened for Jake Stewart. He and his wife have adopted twice – both newborns.
Adoption stories are inspiring and can provide hope on our own journey. Jake will tell the stories about how his children became part of their family. The photo above is with Jake and his family – including both of this kids’ birthmoms.
What you will learn about in this episode:
- How Jake and his wife adopted their two kids – one within 10 days and one within a few months.
- What open adoption means to Jake and his family.
- Tips from a guy’s perspective about how to get on board with the adoption process.
- How Jake and his family had both of their children’s birthmoms stay at their house – on the same weekend.
- AND MUCH MORE!
Posted on 19. Jun, 2014 by Tim.
The following is a guest post from Darin Moss. He shares his incredible story of how he and his wife recently adopted a little boy and how he was able to celebrate Father’s Day in a special way. Enjoy!
I’m sleep deprived…
I go days without a shave…
I’ve been pooped on, peed on, spit up on, and screamed at… And that’s just in one afternoon…
And I’m the happiest I’ve ever been…
I’m the new dad of a 14 week old little boy.
After nearly two years with our adoption agency awaiting “The Call”, the daily anxious anticipation was gone, the frantic checking of caller ID with every phone call had stopped long ago, and the cool factor of the adoption wait had long since worn off. […]
Posted on 29. May, 2014 by Tim.
In this episode, we talk with adoptive dad Keith Miller – the creator of My Adoption Storybook.
Over the past few years, my wife and I have bought several children’s books about adoption that we have read to our little ones. We like the books because they help us tell our kids about adoption.
The problem with most of these books is that they tell someone else’s story. Every adoptive family has their own story to tell. Our two kids definitely have their own stories.
It would be so nice to read the storybook of how our kids became part of our family – maybe even with their own name in the book!
That is the idea Keith had when creating My Adoption Storybook.
This book is so different than anything I’ve seen before. It lets you customize and personalize it to tell your child’s adoption story – including your child’s name, your photos and text. The book is filled with wonderful illustrations that work perfectly with your story. […]
Posted on 15. Feb, 2014 by Tim.
A little while back I got an email from Gayle. She asked me if I would consider looking at her book about adoption. After checking it out on Amazon, I told her I’d love to review it. Shortly after that, my copy of ABC, Adoption & ME arrived. I have to say that I am truly impressed.
I had never seen an adoption book for kids like this before. It is so unique because is uses every letter in the alphabet to talk about lots of adoption topics. I especially like the letter F – it is for Family. Birth families, adoptive families – forever families.
Written by Gayle Swift and her adult daughter Casey Swift – ABC, Adoption and ME is a great book to sit down and read together because it gives adoptive parents the ability to discuss adoption with their children. Each letter’s topic is coupled with descriptive illustrations that creatively covers different aspects of adoption.
You can start reading it when your child is at an early age and it will be a book they can enjoy for many years.
My 7 year old daughter (whom we adopted as a newborn) read the book almost immediately after it arrived. She had a big smile on her face as she read it – and commented several times about how she thought it was an awesome book! She loved the pictures and I could tell how each page captured her attention. […]
Posted on 26. Jan, 2014 by Tim.
In this episode of the Infant Adoption Guide Podcast, we chat with adoptive mom Lisa Hamilton. She shares her domestic infant adoption story.
This episode is all about how she started her family through domestic infant adoption. Lisa shares her heart, her love for her son, and a lot of detail about her story.
What you will learn about in this episode:
- Why Lisa decided on domestic infant adoption.
- How long she waited to be matched with her son’s birthmom.
- How she researched and chose an adoption agency.
- What is was like being in the delivery room with her son’s birthmother – holding her hand when he was born.
- What open adoption means to her.
- One thing she would have changed (if she could have) on her adoption journey.
- Tips on how to communicate with a birthmother.
- AND MUCH MORE!
Links we talk about in this episode:
- ConsciousRunner.com – this is Lisa’s website about her passion for running, motivation, optimism, and inspiration.
- Conscious Runner Podcast – this is Lisa’s internet radio show – which is about “helping you rock your life and your run.”
- InfantAdoptionGuide.com/start-here – this is the place to learn more about domestic infant adoption.
- InfantAdoptionGuide.com/12 – this is podcast episode where I share my domestic infant adoption through two adoptions.
What do you think about Lisa’s story? Enter your comments below.
Posted on 16. Jan, 2014 by Tim.
The emotional ups and downs of the domestic infant adoption process can leave prospective adoptive parents feeling hopeless, discouraged and frustrated.
Going through the journey, it is so helpful to talk to someone who understands what we are experiencing. Friends and family can be supportive, but they don’t always understand the adoption roller coaster.
Getting a group of people together who share the experience of adoption can be a huge blessing.
They can help keep us focused on the path to building our family. It is a relief knowing we are not alone – there are others in our community who can provide the support we need.
So – what are these groups?
Local adoption support groups. They are lifelines for prospective adoptive parents – providing hope and inspiration to get us through our journey to parenthood.
There are lots of reasons why these groups play a BIG part in the adoption journey.
12 reasons why you need a local adoption support group:
- You get to talk directly to people who have been there (or are still going through the process). Get and give empathy and support – before, during & after placement.
- Get a regular dose of encouragement, inspiration, and hope to get through the ups & downs.
- Find out how others have found creative ways to: fund your adoption, connect with expectant mothers, etc. […]
Posted on 10. Dec, 2013 by Tim.
There is no better way to learn about the adoption process and the emotions connected with adoption than to hear a story from families who have lived it.
This special episode is where I share my adoption story – how my wife and I have adopted two newborns.
Through it all, we learned that while adoption is not easy, it is SOOOO worth it.
Like many adoptive families, we struggled through infertility treatments. After 12 years of marriage, we knew more than ever that we just wanted to be a mom and a dad – however that was going to happen.
That’s when adoption became a reality for us.
We decided to go for it, having no idea about the ups and downs adoption can put you through. I hope and pray that you’ll learn more about domestic infant adoption and will be inspired by my story.
In this episode you’ll learn about: CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING