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5 Tips For Making Your Adoption Portfolio/Profile Unique

Posted on 30. Oct, 2014 by .

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My wife and I have just finished creating our profile for our 3rd adoption – and it doesn’t seem to get any easier.

I’ve done a lot of research about profiles. I really value Madeleine Melcher’s opinion and expertise about how to create the best and most unique profile. She literally wrote the book on creating adoption profiles (see link below). Plus, she is an adoptive mom and adoptee!

Madeleine has been creating adoption profiles for hopeful parents for many years so her unique perspective in the adoption world has helped lots of parents adopt faster.

She was our guest on episode 19 of the Infant Adoption Guide podcast and now she shares 5 amazing tips that will help your adoption profile stand out. Enjoy!

5 Tips for making your adoption profile uniqueI regularly see posts from hopeful parents who just want to get their profile finished.  They make an “all call” on adoption Facebook pages in hopes of seeing what others have done when creating their profiles. Whatever is fastest.  Whatever can accomplish it as soon as possible. 

I get it.  I am very much a person who wants things done yesterday, but if there was ever something you wanted done right, it should be this.

Doing exactly what everyone else has done will not work- you have to make it, YOU. 

It really does not take much more time to make your profile unique to you, but it may make all the difference in the outcome. So look at the other profiles if you want to.  See what you like and do not like, but whatever you do, take the time to make yours, your own.


1. BE YOU.
 

The best advice I can give when it comes to your adoption profile is to be you and each of the other tips will fall under that heading. YOU ARE good enough.  YOU ARE unique.

You are not going to be chosen for what you have in common with all of the other families, you will be chosen for something that sets you apart – something an expectant parent can connect with.

In my book How to Create a Successful Adoption Portfolio, I talk about a family that was chosen because they raised rabbits. Who woulda thunk it, right?!?!  Do not try to be a stepford family.  Do not try and be another version of you. Had that family with the rabbits not been themselves and shown themselves they would not have been chosen.

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Adopting a 3rd time – our latest adoption journey

Posted on 25. Oct, 2014 by .

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If you’ve followed my story about how I became a dad and how my wife and I adopted our daughter in 2007 and our son in 2012, you know the road to building our family has been an amazing and wild ride.journey to our 3rd adoption

Our experiences have inspired me to help other hopeful adoptive families through InfantAdoptionGuide.com and the Infant Adoption Guide Podcast. I’ve recorded a podcast episode about our journey so if you’d like to listen to how we’ve made it through our first two adoptions, check out episode 12.

The big news for our family is that we are adopting again! 

My hope and prayer is that our adoption stories will inspire and help you in your adoption journey.

Excited (and anxious) for adoption #3

Just like any family who are “expecting” to add to their family, my wife and I are super excited to adopt again. We are also a bit nervous and anxious.

It may surprise you that we are nervous after adopting twice, but that’s the thing with domestic infant adoption – every story is unique and there are no guarantees. You just don’t know how the whole thing is going to play out.

What do I mean by this? There could be a failed match (or more than one) with an expectant mother, where we may be invested emotionally and/or financially only to start over with waiting for the right match. 

After two successful adoptions, we know how we would like it to go. We know what it takes to build our family, but we also know it can be a roller coaster ride.

Where we are right now in our journey

We decided to work again with our friends at Lifetime Adoption Center, just as we have on our first two adoptions. They are great and we are comfortable with them. We know what we get and they do what they say they will do so we trust them. We feel that Lifetime will minimize our risk of a failed match or failed placement.

Here’s our TO-DO list: [...]

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IAG 027 – Dr Ray Guarendi – author, speaker and adoptive dad of 10

Posted on 02. Oct, 2014 by .

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On this episode of the show I chat with Dr Ray Guarendi, a father to 10 adopted children who is also a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and radio/TV host.

Dr. Ray has been a regular guest on TV and radio programs such as Oprah, The 700 Club and CBS This Morning. Through all of his work, families have been his life. His aim is to help parents – offering practical advice mixed with wit and humor.

Dr. Ray wrote the book “Adoption: Choosing It, Living It, Loving It” where he answers the most commonly asked adoption questions with insight, humor and a heart for the adoptive family. His goal is to eliminate misperceptions about adoption, to encourage others to think about and act on adoption, and to guide adoptive parents to a more relaxed, rewarding family life for all involved.

 I have read the book and highly recommend it because it’s a resource for those considering adoption, those who have already adopted and those in the mix such as family members or friends of adoptive parents. 

In this episode, Dr. Ray and I talk about what it’s like being the father of 10 adopted children. He shares his experience and answers questions about open adoption and his own journey. [...]

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Ask An Adoption Question #6: I want to adopt – where do I start?

Posted on 27. Sep, 2014 by .

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In today’s “Ask An Adoption Question”, Allison asks about how to get started on the adoption process.askanAdoptionQuestion6

 

Tim,

Thank you so much for your wonderful site! I’m just starting the adoption process. I’m truly at a loss of where to go to find assistance with the process. I don’t know if I should use an agency, attorney, or any other sources. I want to adopt, but where do I start?!

Allison

 

Hi, Allison!

Thanks for the email and nice comments about my site. Congratulations on starting the adoption process! I totally understand being at a loss about where to start and where to find help. I’ve written several articles about starting the process. Here are a few: How to start? Here’s the first step in your adoption journey and 7 steps to domestic infant adoption.

Here’s what I would do if I were in your shoes, just starting the infant adoption journey:

1. FINANCES.
I’d carefully look at my financial situation and determine how much adoption budget I have. Domestic infant adoption is expensive because of the help you need. You’ll need a homestudy completed, you’ll likely hire an adoption professional to help you connect with a prospective birthmom, you may need to travel to another state, etc.

Here’s some places to learn how to evaluate your adoption budget, learn about adoption costs, and how to fund your adoption. [...]

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IAG 026 – Adoption Grants with Becky Fawcett of HelpUsAdopt.org

Posted on 19. Sep, 2014 by .

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Most of us who are working to save money for our domestic infant adoption could use help with covering the cost. What if you could get FREE money for your adoption journey?

Our guest on the show today is Becky Fawcett, an adoptive mom, blogger, and the Founder/Executive Director of HelpUsAdopt.org, which is a national non-profit 501(c)(3) financial assistance grant program providing qualified couples and individuals with grants of up to $15,000 towards their domestic, international, foster, or special needs adoption expenses.


Adoption grants IAG 026 with Becky Fawcett

Becky shares her story and her passion for helping hopeful adoptive families through HelpUsAdopt.org. Listen to this interview as we talk about you have the chance to receive an adoption grant.

We know that most private or agency/attorney assisted infant adoptions in the U.S. are expensive. Most people struggle with figuring out how to pay for their adoption journey. While there are many ways to fund your adoption, grants are free money that you can use to pay adoption expenses.

HelpUsAdopt.org was founded in 2007 and is the only organization of its kind in the United States that embodies all of the following criteria:

  • awards large life-changing grants up to $15,000 that help families complete their adoptions
  • supports all types of families
  • supports all types of adoptions (domestic, international, foster care)
  • supports all types of religions without requiring a statement of faith
  • does not charge applicants to apply

Becky says that “In a nutshell, we help hardworking families overcome the financial obstacles of adoption so children can join loving and permanent homes to give them all that they deserve.” 

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Adoption, vacation and pillow pets in the rear view mirror

Posted on 06. Sep, 2014 by .

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Over the years, my wife and I have been on several vacations together. Many of them were road trips where it took several hours to get to our destination.

Maybe you know what it’s like to pack for a long road trip. As much as we try to simplify our packing and take only the “essentials”, we end up with suitcases full of 10 pairs of shoes, half our wardrobe and the kitchen sink.

Problem: there’s not a lot of room left in the car.

This happened again recently when we went on a family vacation that required 7 hours of driving.

To be fair, this trip was with our two kids which meant there were toys, pillows, toys, and another suitcase. I spent lots of time (more than I care to admit) diligently packing the car, trying to carefully use every square inch so I could see out the back window.

I was proud that everything fit, nothing was smashed and it looked like I would be able to see out the back window just fine. So we loaded everyone in the car. We were a bit late getting on the road, but we set off for 7 hours of driving bliss.

Not even 5 minutes into our road trip, I looked in the rear view mirror. To my surprise, I couldn’t see much of the road behind us. My view was blocked. Not by suitcases or bags – but by two pillow pets. [...]

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IAG 025: Adoption Home Study Questions & Answers with Lori Fraas

Posted on 29. Aug, 2014 by .

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How would it feel to ask a social worker about your adoption home study BEFORE you started the process? What if that social worker had already completed over 1500 home studies?

Licensed clinical social worker Lori Fraas is our guest on the show today. She shares her experience from completing over 1500 home studies. She answers tons of questions that will help you eliminate fear and overwhelm, giving you confidence to complete your adoption home study. 

Lori is the founder and Executive Director of Adoption Support Services of Florida, which is a licensed adoption agency dedicated to helping families. She completes home studies for families living in Florida.

She is an expert in home studies and is a sought after speaker for online adoption seminars, Social Work training courses, RESOLVE infertility support groups and adoption conferences.

Lori says “The home study should be an interactive, educational experience and not a painstaking chore. We understand there is no such thing as a perfect family and one phrase we hear again and again after the completion of the home study process is – Wow, that was easier than I thought it would be!” 

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Adoption book review: How To Create a Successful Adoption Portfolio by Madeleine Melcher

Posted on 23. Aug, 2014 by .

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How important is your adoption profile? 

It is the biggest tool you have to help you get a quick match with an expectant mother. It is something we pin our hopes on to make the connection we need to build our family through adoption. Your adoption profile (also known as your adoption portfolio) can also be the most overwhelming part of the process.Adoption book review How to Create Adoption Portfolio

Now that my wife and I have been through two domestic infant adoptions (and currently starting #3), I know how difficult it is to create a unique, creative and successful adoption profile. In episode 19 of the Infant Adoption Guide podcast, we were able to chat with Madeleine Melcher, who is an adoptive mom, an adoptee and an author. 

Madeleine recently wrote the book How To Create a Successful Adoption Portfolio: Easy steps to help you produce the best adoption profile and prospective birthparent letter. She shares the secrets she has discovered over years of creating successful portfolios, profiles and prospective birth parent letters. [...]

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IAG 024: How to simplify and shorten your path to adoption with Amanda Grant from USAdopt

Posted on 13. Aug, 2014 by .

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Want to save time, money and stress on your adoption journey?

Absolutely! We all would like that, right? Amanda Grant is our guest on the show today and she will tell us how to simplify and shorten the path to adoption. She is an adoptive mom and Founder/CEO of USAdopt.com.

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Most people (for very valid reasons) can’t wait to start the process so they contract with an agency or attorney, sometimes going with the first referral they get from a friend or family member.

Amanda says that “far too often people realize that they might be partnered with the wrong professional for their adoption journey, after already having become financially and emotionally invested in that relationship. Our unique process makes sure that this doesn’t happen to you.” 

People often report that the adoption process took 2-5 years to complete. Much of that time was spent figuring out what questions to ask and filtering through the overwhelming amount of information to figure out what is relevant and what is trustworthy. This is what USAdopt does for you. 

If you haven’t heard of USAdopt, they are an adoption consulting service, not an agency or facilitator. They specialize in domestic infant adoptions by helping you simplify and shorten the adoption process through personalized help every step of the way. [...]

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Ask an Adoption Question #5: Do African American couples usually have a shorter adoption wait?

Posted on 09. Aug, 2014 by .

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Tim,

My husband and I are preparing to send in our application for our first domestic infant adoption. Yay! We are both African American, but can not find a lot of information regarding African American couples adopting. I asked the agency we are working with (Gladney) and she did tell us that AA couples’ adoption wait is usually shorter. Do u agree with this? Is there any ‘special tips’ or advice u know of in this process? Is there any other information u can offer us? Including ideas for fundraising since it may be a shorter wait time.

Thanks so much and I love your podcast!

-Quinetta

Hi, Quinetta!

Congratulations on starting your adoption journey – exciting times for sure!

Yes, I agree that from what I’ve read and heard, African American couples usually have a shorter wait – great for you!

LifetimeAdoption.com says “the one family type that is always in high demand by our birthmothers is the African American family. Black families interested in African American newborns are normally matched with a birth mother within a few months.” [...]

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