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IAG 024: How to simplify and shorten your path to adoption with Amanda Grant from USAdopt

Posted on 13. Aug, 2014 by .

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Want to save time, money and stress on your adoption journey?

Absolutely! We all would like that, right? Amanda Grant is our guest on the show today and she will tell us how to simplify and shorten the path to adoption. She is an adoptive mom and Founder/CEO of USAdopt.com.

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Most people (for very valid reasons) can’t wait to start the process so they contract with an agency or attorney, sometimes going with the first referral they get from a friend or family member.

Amanda says that “far too often people realize that they might be partnered with the wrong professional for their adoption journey, after already having become financially and emotionally invested in that relationship. Our unique process makes sure that this doesn’t happen to you.” 

People often report that the adoption process took 2-5 years to complete. Much of that time was spent figuring out what questions to ask and filtering through the overwhelming amount of information to figure out what is relevant and what is trustworthy. This is what USAdopt does for you. 

If you haven’t heard of USAdopt, they are an adoption consulting service, not an agency or facilitator. They specialize in domestic infant adoptions by helping you simplify and shorten the adoption process through personalized help every step of the way. [...]

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Ask an Adoption Question #5: Do African American couples usually have a shorter adoption wait?

Posted on 09. Aug, 2014 by .

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Tim,

My husband and I are preparing to send in our application for our first domestic infant adoption. Yay! We are both African American, but can not find a lot of information regarding African American couples adopting. I asked the agency we are working with (Gladney) and she did tell us that AA couples’ adoption wait is usually shorter. Do u agree with this? Is there any ‘special tips’ or advice u know of in this process? Is there any other information u can offer us? Including ideas for fundraising since it may be a shorter wait time.

Thanks so much and I love your podcast!

-Quinetta

Hi, Quinetta!

Congratulations on starting your adoption journey – exciting times for sure!

Yes, I agree that from what I’ve read and heard, African American couples usually have a shorter wait – great for you!

LifetimeAdoption.com says “the one family type that is always in high demand by our birthmothers is the African American family. Black families interested in African American newborns are normally matched with a birth mother within a few months.” [...]

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IAG 023: An infant adoption story with Jake Stewart

Posted on 30. Jul, 2014 by .

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Can you imagine your first adoption taking 10 days? In this episode you’ll hear how that happened for Jake Stewart. He and his wife have adopted twice – both newborns. Jake Stewart familyAdoption stories are inspiring and can provide hope on our own journey. Jake will tell the stories about how his children became part of their family. The photo above is with Jake and his family – including both of this kids’ birthmoms.   

What you will learn about in this episode:

  • How Jake and his wife adopted their two kids – one within 10 days and one within a few months.
  • What open adoption means to Jake and his family.
  • Tips from a guy’s perspective about how to get on board with the adoption process.
  • How Jake and his family had both of their children’s birthmoms stay at their house – on the same weekend.
  • AND MUCH MORE!

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Adoption profile stats – How many times has your profile been seen? Here’s why you may not want to know.

Posted on 15. Jul, 2014 by .

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Adoption profiles are the most important way for you to get noticed by prospective birthmothers.

A great profile will lead to the all important match, which hopefully leads to a placement and realizing the dream of building your family. With the vast opportunities via the internet, hopeful adoptive families have more marketing options available than ever before.

Lots of matches are now being made from profiles being found online. With those facts come new information that can be provided to families: adoption profile stats. [...]

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Ask an adoption question #4: How do we not feel rejected & lose hope when waiting to adopt?

Posted on 27. Jun, 2014 by .

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In today’s “Ask An Adoption Question”, Shelly talks about her struggle with waiting to adopt.

Hi, Tim
The hardest thing for me is the waiting. Every day that passes feels like I have been rejected by all the people who look at our 3 websites. I think I’m not pretty enough to be chosen, our pictures aren’t good enough. It was extremely hard to go through gathering all the paperwork and cleaning our home again preparing for our second home study. Feels like what’s the point – losing hope we’ll ever be matched.
Shelly

 


Hi, Shelly!

Thanks for your email. I know the waiting part of the adoption process is the worst. My wife and I have been through tough waiting periods during both of our adoptions.

It just plain sucks – no glamorous words here. Waiting will test your resolve for how bad you want to become parents. There were many times that our hopes were running really thin. [...]

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3 flights, 33 hours and 9,000 miles to become an adoptive dad

Posted on 19. Jun, 2014 by .

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The following is a guest post from Darin Moss. He shares his incredible story of how he and his wife recently adopted a little boy and how he was able to celebrate Father’s Day in a special way. Enjoy!

Darin with his wife and newly adopted son

I’m sleep deprived…

I go days without a shave…

I’ve been pooped on, peed on, spit up on, and screamed at… And that’s just in one afternoon…

And I’m the happiest I’ve ever been…

I’m the new dad of a 14 week old little boy. 

After nearly two years with our adoption agency awaiting “The Call”, the daily anxious anticipation was gone, the frantic checking of caller ID with every phone call had stopped long ago, and the cool factor of the adoption wait had long since worn off.   [...]

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IAG 022: How to adopt faster and easier with Thea Ramirez – founder of Adoption-Share.com

Posted on 12. Jun, 2014 by .

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In this episode of the Infant Adoption Guide Podcast, we talk with Thea Ramirez – the Founder and President of Adoption-Share.com.

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What would it mean to you if there was a way to connect directly with over 80 adoption agencies and attorneys nationwide that are constantly posting adoption situations just for you?

Where do I sign up, right? 

This is exactly what Adoption-Share.com does every day.

On today’s show, I chat with Thea Ramirez of Adoption-Share.com. She’ll talk about how you can adopt faster and easier by becoming a part of this growing online membership site.

If you are tired of waiting with no match and are losing hope – or even if you’ve just started the adoption process, you need to check out Adoption-Share.com. [...]

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The forgotten part of domestic adoption: Birthfathers

Posted on 06. Jun, 2014 by .

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Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Domestic infant adoption always involves a birthmother, adoptive parents, and of course – the baby. There are times when an important member of the adoption story is forgotten. Birthfathers (also known as first fathers) can get overlooked or left out. 

In today’s adoption world (at least in the United States), most domestic infant adoptions are considered “open adoptions” – meaning there is some level of continuing contact between birthparents and adoptive parents.

Quick adoption terminology check: the fathers should be referred to as expectant fathers before parental rights are relinquished or terminated. They are only considered birthfathers after they relinquish rights.

So why are the fathers often left out of the adoption picture?

It could be a number of reasons. Maybe it is by his choice. Maybe the expectant mother or birthmother knows where he is but doesn’t want him involved for whatever reason.

As one birthfather wrote on his blog, “maybe it’s because many birthfathers are afraid to try to stay in the lives of their children placed for adoption, convinced by society that the “best” thing for them to do is forget about that child. Some of them might find the effort required to stay a part of their children’s lives is too hard. Others may feel the stigma of being written off as nothing more than a sperm donor.”

What I want to bring to light is something not often thought about. There are situations when the expectant father (or birthfather) wants to be involved, he wants to know who will be parenting his child, and he wants to know his child is loved and cared for.  [...]

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IAG 021: My Adoption Storybook with adoptive dad Keith Miller

Posted on 29. May, 2014 by .

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In this episode of the Infant Adoption Guide Podcast, we talk with adoptive dad Keith Miller – the creator of My Adoption Storybook.IAG021 MyAdoptionStorybook with Keith Miller

Over the past few years, my wife and I have bought several children’s books about adoption that we have read to our little ones. We like the books because they help us tell our kids about adoption.

The problem with most of these books is that they tell someone else’s story. Every adoptive family has their own story to tell. Our two kids definitely have their own stories.

It would be so nice to read the storybook of how our kids became part of our family – maybe even with their own name in the book!

That is the idea Keith had when creating My Adoption Storybook.

This book is so different than anything I’ve seen before. It lets you customize and personalize it to tell your child’s adoption story – including your child’s name, your photos and text. The book is filled with wonderful illustrations that work perfectly with your story. [...]

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Ask an adoption question #3: What are some suggestions for advertising our adoption through social media (other than Facebook)?

Posted on 24. May, 2014 by .

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In today’s “Ask An Adoption Question”, Karen asks about how to use social media to advertise about their desire to adopt.askanadoptionquestion3

Hi, Tim
What are some suggestions for advertising for our adoption other than Facebook and Craigslist that has been working in this world of social media?
Karen

 


Hi, Karen!

I love this question because it tells me you don’t want to sit back and wait for something to happen on your adoption journey. Trying new ways to make a connection and match with an expectant mother will help bring home your little one that much faster.

Based on your question, it sounds like you’ve already used Facebook and Craigslist. Facebook is arguably the best (and definitely the biggest) social media tool you can use to let the world know that you want to adopt. I have written an article about how to use Facebook for your adoption networking.

Let’s clarify what “social media” means. Social media refers to tools we use to communicate using the internet. This includes social networking sites such as Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest. These tools are typically free and have made it possible for anyone to create and share messages with hundreds or even thousands of people.

Here are my suggestions on how to use social media (other than Facebook and Craigslist) to network for your adoption: [...]

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