Posted on 05. Mar, 2014 by Tim.
When you have a BIG life decision coming up – would you LOVE to know what common mistakes people have made when making that same decision? I say YES – absolutely!
Think about this: when you decide to move – sell your house and buy another. It’s a big decision – you need to think about where to move – when to move – if you have kids, are there good schools? Who can tell us what it’s like? You definitely want to do lots of research and then make your decision.
So, why should it be any different when selecting an adoption agency or attorney to help you build your family?
Today we are talking about the 7 common mistakes to avoid when selecting an adoption agency:
1. Not doing your homework.
2. Not getting enough references.
3. Choosing only based on what’s closest to you.
4. Choosing only based on cost (aka the cheapest).
5. Choosing only based on your home study agency.
6. Choosing based on advertised extremely short wait times.
7. Analysis Paralysis.
There is no one right way to choose an adoption agency or attorney – but there are many wrong ways. Most hopeful adoptive families get overwhelmed with how to choose – and for good reason. There are over 2000 agencies and attorneys in the U.S. – so where do you start? [...]
Posted on 20. Feb, 2014 by Tim.
Here on the Infant Adoption Guide blog, you’ve read about the 12 reasons why you need a local adoption support group and How to find a local adoption support group.
What if there are no local groups near you? Or maybe you’ve found a group, but what if it doesn’t fit what you need? Well, there’s hope. You can start your own local adoption support group. Now – before your anxiety level gets too high, it isn’t as hard as it may seem.
You can do this. You just need the tips and tools to get started. Here is what I’ve found to be the most helpful stuff for starting your own local adoption support group.
The beauty of starting your own group
1. You get to choose how the group is structured (type, where to meet, frequency of meetings, content, etc.).
2. You can choose the type of group members (example: only those who are and/or have already gone through domestic infant adoption.) [...]
Posted on 15. Feb, 2014 by Tim.
A little while back I got an email from Gayle. She asked me if I would consider looking at her book about adoption. After checking it out on Amazon, I told her I’d love to review it. Shortly after that, my copy of ABC, Adoption & ME arrived. I have to say that I am truly impressed.
I had never seen an adoption book for kids like this before. It is so unique because is uses every letter in the alphabet to talk about lots of adoption topics. I especially like the letter F – it is for Family. Birth families, adoptive families – forever families.
Written by Gayle Swift and her adult daughter Casey Swift – ABC, Adoption and ME is a great book to sit down and read together because it gives adoptive parents the ability to discuss adoption with their children. Each letter’s topic is coupled with descriptive illustrations that creatively covers different aspects of adoption.
You can start reading it when your child is at an early age and it will be a book they can enjoy for many years.
My 7 year old daughter (whom we adopted as a newborn) read the book almost immediately after it arrived. She had a big smile on her face as she read it – and commented several times about how she thought it was an awesome book! She loved the pictures and I could tell how each page captured her attention. [...]
Posted on 06. Feb, 2014 by Tim.
Local adoption support groups can be a lifeline for those who have adopted and those still on the journey. It is so helpful to talk to someone who “gets” what we are experiencing through adoption.
I’ve written about the 12 reasons why you need a local adoption support group. Now that you know why these groups are so important – let’s show you how to find one.
How to find a local adoption support group:
The North American Council on Adoptive Children (NACAC) has a searchable list of hundreds of groups so you can find one in your community.
Adoptive Families magazine has a searchable list of support groups. Just enter your state to find one near you.
Childwelfare.gov is government site that has a searchable database of adoption support groups.
AdoptionServices.org has local support groups listed from every state.
Meetup.com allows you to search for adoption to see if there are support groups in your city.
Here are sites that list groups in a particular city and/or state: [...]
Posted on 30. Jan, 2014 by Tim.
It’s coming up on tax time again here in the U.S. so it’s time to talk about the Adoption Tax Credit. Here are some frequently asked questions regarding the credit for 2013. As always, please consult your tax adviser. I personally use a CPA to do my taxes because I’ve tried doing them on my own and have messed it up because it can get complicated. Here’s how you can find a good CPA.
What is the adoption tax credit?
The adoption tax credit offsets qualified adoption expenses, making adoption possible for some families who could not otherwise afford it.
How much is the adoption tax credit for 2013?
The adoption tax credit for tax year 2013 is $12,970 per adopted child.
Is the adoption tax credit refundable or nonrefundable – and what does that mean?
The credit was made a permanent part of the tax law in 2012 as a nonrefundable tax credit. A refundable tax credit is one you get back regardless of what you owe or paid in taxes for the year. Since the adoption tax credit is nonrefundable, you receive only what you have in federal income tax liability. The credit can be “carried over” for up to 5 additional years until you get back the entire credit amount for that adoption. [...]
Posted on 26. Jan, 2014 by Tim.
In this episode of the Infant Adoption Guide Podcast, we chat with adoptive mom Lisa Hamilton. She shares her domestic infant adoption story.
This episode is all about how she started her family through domestic infant adoption. Lisa shares her heart, her love for her son, and a lot of detail about her story.
What you will learn about in this episode:
- Why Lisa decided on domestic infant adoption.
- How long she waited to be matched with her son’s birthmom.
- How she researched and chose an adoption agency. [...]
Posted on 16. Jan, 2014 by Tim.
The emotional ups and downs of the domestic infant adoption process can leave prospective adoptive parents feeling hopeless, discouraged and frustrated.
Going through the journey, it is so helpful to talk to someone who understands what we are experiencing. Friends and family can be supportive, but they don’t always understand the adoption roller coaster.
Getting a group of people together who share the experience of adoption can be a huge blessing.
They can help keep us focused on the path to building our family. It is a relief knowing we are not alone – there are others in our community who can provide the support we need.
So – what are these groups?
Local adoption support groups. They are lifelines for prospective adoptive parents – providing hope and inspiration to get us through our journey to parenthood.
There are lots of reasons why these groups play a BIG part in the adoption journey.
12 reasons why you need a local adoption support group:
- You get to talk directly to people who have been there (or are still going through the process). Get and give empathy and support – before, during & after placement.
- Get a regular dose of encouragement, inspiration, and hope to get through the ups & downs.
- Find out how others have found creative ways to: fund your adoption, connect with expectant mothers, etc. [...]
Posted on 10. Jan, 2014 by Tim.
Have you ever thought about working with multiple adoption agencies to help speed up the time it takes to connect with a potential birthmother? Maybe you are frustrated with waiting and you want to work with other agencies. This is where ParentMatch.com can help.
In this episode of the Infant Adoption Guide Podcast, we chat with Dr. Lori Ingber, the Founder of ParentMatch.com – which helps match hopeful adoptive parents with expectant parents by connecting adoption agencies and attorneys all throughout the country.
Dr. Ingber is a mother of four children – two of which were adopted. She launched ParentMatch in 2008 after her sister’s interesting journey to add to their family through domestic infant adoption.
ParentMatch is NOT an agency or facilitator. It is an independent adoption resource that allows adoption professionals with domestic adoption programs to network with one another in a secure, confidential manner. This means agencies and attorneys can pull together nationwide to match children quickly with the best family available…YOU.
No matter where you are in your adoption journey, this episode is for you. You’d love to shorten the adoption wait, right? Me too!
What you will learn about in this episode:
- Why Dr. Ingber decided to create ParentMatch.
- You’ll hear why her sister’s amazing adoption story inspired the creation of ParentMatch.
- How ParentMatch works – what the benefits are for you and for your adoption professional.
- Why ParentMatch is FREE for adoptive families. [...]
Posted on 01. Jan, 2014 by Tim.
Happy New Year! 2013 was a great year! My wife and I have had lots of fun with our two kids – our daughter (adopted in 2007) and our son (adopted in 2012).
This past year was also challenging at times for us since it had been over 5 years since we had a newborn baby in the house – which meant very little sleep but we aren’t about to complain. We’ve waited years and years for this – so no lack of sleep is going to wipe away our smiles.
I know a lot of you have been waiting too. Adoption is an up and down process. It is a struggle, it is tough…and it is WORTH IT. So if you’re a bit down because you didn’t get your Christmas wish – or if you’ve been waiting a long time and it is wearing on you – hang in there.
You’ve got this – you can do it! Hold on and you’ll experience the joy you’ve been waiting for.
To all of you who have emailed me, sent Facebook messages, and commented on posts this past year – THANK YOU.
Your questions, thoughts and updates on your adoption process gives me encouragement and inspiration! I love hearing from you – it really drives me to continue to provide as much help for your adoption journey as I can.
2013 was an incredible year for InfantAdoptionGuide.com. I’ve shared tons of new blog posts, 10 new podcast episodes, a FREE download (25 Tips To Survive the Adoption Wait) and my new ebook was launched – the 7 Steps To Domestic Infant Adoption.
Here are some of the BEST and most popular IAG stuff from all of 2013:
Now 2014 is here and full of hope and inspiration for your adoption journey! May this be your best year yet – one where you become a mom & dad. This is my prayer for you.
Posted on 10. Dec, 2013 by Tim.
There is no better way to learn about the adoption process and the emotions connected with adoption than to hear a story from families who have lived it.
This special episode is where I share my adoption story – how my wife and I have adopted two newborns.
Through it all, we learned that while adoption is not easy, it is SOOOO worth it.
Like many adoptive families, we struggled through infertility treatments. After 12 years of marriage, we knew more than ever that we just wanted to be a mom and a dad – however that was going to happen.
That’s when adoption became a reality for us.
We decided to go for it, having no idea about the ups and downs adoption can put you through. I hope and pray that you’ll learn more about domestic infant adoption and will be inspired by my story.
In this episode you’ll learn about: CLICK HERE TO CONTINUE READING